The Missing Stair Part 3 (unauthorised): A Requiem of Len
Whaleoil broke the story of the unfaithful Len Brown, touching off a political left-right slug fest. In the crossfire an idea has died. The idea that inequity should not be supported in relationships, as espoused by Emma Hart hardly made it a month.Emma Hart at Public Address wrote two Missing Stair posts: The Necessary Bastard and The Creeper and the Excuser. Go read them if you want, I liked ideas put forward.
Mayor Len
Auckland's Mayor Len Brown is a highly successful creeper. He has a excusers all over the place. Len Brown will get away with it, probably he has got away with it before. People like him almost always get a free pass.
What is a Creeper?
Creepers are on the lookout for someone vulnerable. They can use a number of approaches, but what they want is someone who will not say no. Ideally they want someone who can be pressured into saying yes, repeatedly.
The description of a creeper Emma provides details a promiscuous form of creeper, the mass mail out approach where as high as number as possible are randomly approached.
What about somewhere short of that? What about the Creepers? The ones who have a habit of touching people who don’t want to be touched? The hand on the leg, the accidental brushes, the sexual remarks that make people really uncomfortable? Would you do something about that?
That is the route of the lazy, unintelligent creeper and is not the best approach. Creepers are just one person so mass marketing is hard to carry off. Creepers are better served to find someone they know is vulnerable and exploit that vulnerability. Doing a bit of research beforehand and then repeatedly targeting the same individual can induce impetus.
What is an Excuser?
Emma provides descriptions of societal perceptions that play into the hands of creepers, implying that society is passively biases towards the creeper.
One of the reasons women tend not to talk about this stuff is the tendency for people to minimise it. It was a joke. You misread the situation. You’re over-reacting.I think Emma is incorrect here. I think that society deserves more credit and is basically non-biased on the subject.
An Excuser is someone who actively aids the creeper and will exploit vulnerabilities in the target to minimise the accusations. Excusers will do so out of a feeling of obligation to the well being creeper or for personal gain.
How to pattern yourself as a highly successful creeper?
Be powerful, useful to as many people as possible. Excusers will be ready at a moments notice.
Find a vulnerable person who you would like to utilise for your pleasure. Approach them obliquely in a complimentary manner. Demonstrate your power, that you can be useful to them or that you can break them. Isolate your target away from potential support networks. Obtain consent. Utilise for your pleasure. When they break your control or you get bored with them, leave them. After leaving, remind them of your power and caution them of the need to remain quiet.